Counseling Parents: 2 simple questions David Luterman taught me

When we ask a parent these questions as often proposed by David Luterman:

"How are you feeling?"
"What do you need to know?"
and deal with that, no more and no less, parents stay with us and come back when they need more.

Father, mother, grandparents, other significant care-givers will not likely be on the same schedule of processing their feelings nor will they have the same questions . Be mindful of all family members.

Of course, ask only one of these questions at a time - not rapid-fire and wait calmly/silently for them to open up and reply.